Thank you for the uncertainty you bring to my life. As an entrepreneur, you are my constant companion. I wouldn’t say that I enjoy your company, but your presence has been an important part of my professional and personal growth.
• You show up when I go to networking events, ( Will I know anyone there?)
• You show up when I have a conversation with a potential client. (Do they believe that I offer a solution to their challenges?)
• You show up when I have to have a difficult conversation with a colleague. (Will it be awkward the next time we need to work together?)
A good horse trainer and a good leader have some important things in common. They are willing to be uncomfortable and they learn to deal with uncertainty. They are OK with not knowing all the answers all the time. They understand they must experiment and gain access to a new level of creativity. This is the core of good leadership.
Note to Fear: I’m getting more comfortable with being uncomfortable.
I have 2 choices in the face of your uncertainty or discomfort:
I can do nothing.
I can take action.
The problem with doing nothing is that then I feel like “things happened to me” instead of me happening to them and I end up feeling powerless. It’s a bit of that victim mentality that you love so much, Fear.. It keeps me stuck and not moving forward.
Taking action involves risk. What if it doesn’t work out?
The outcome of my actions is not something I have control of. (Yes, it’s true.)
What I DO have control of is my choice to ACT. Oftentimes, even when I’m not sure that I’ve found the perfect answer, simply by acting things at least get moving in some direction—which can then be adjusted. Knowing that I caused some movement to occur causes me to regain that sense of power.
Thank you again for joining me on this journey. Through tackling discomfort and uncertainty, I’ve become more confident, persistent and resilient that I ever would’ve become without you. I owe you a debt of gratitude.
Thank you, Fear, from the bottom of my heart.