I am honored and excited to tell you that I’ve been selected as a speaker for a TEDx talk at the University of Texas at Arlington. This is a big deal to me and, I admit, a bit scary. But, we only grow when we’re placed outside our comfort zone, right?
I’ve been thinking about presence and being present this morning.
Good speakers and good leaders have presence. They have that charisma, poise and that impressive bearing that people are naturally drawn to. They’re the ones who make you feel like you’re the most interesting person in the room, no matter what.
Good speakers and good leaders are present and “in the moment.” Every fiber of their being is concentrated in the here & now and focused on you. They connect with their audience not just with words but through their hearts.
It’s easy for me to not be present because l love to think about the future. I’m a dreamer and I like to consider all the possibilities that could be. It’s one of my strengths! However, it can also cause me to be fearful of what others might think of me (something that I have no control over!) and what they will do with that info/those thoughts in the future. When I’m worrying about the future—or how the past will affect the future, I’m not being present.
Horses live in the present and can teach you a lot about living there. They’re not concerned with what you might think of them later or that you were late bringing them breakfast yesterday morning. They are focused on what you are asking and how you are asking right now.
When you are focused on the horse and asking her to do something, she can tell if you really mean your request. She can tell if you really expect her to do it. If one moment you ask the horse to move and in the next your attention wanders to what’s on your grocery list, your horse’s attention will also wander—most likely to some grass. Then you’ll have to start all over again. It’s in this way that horses can teach us to focus longer and remain in the moment where deep connection and clear communication can then occur.
Presence is a powerful thing. I know that when I’m present, fully present, I am powerful, calm and able to make adjustments to create wins for those with whom I’m interacting. That is an essential quality of good leadership. I am blessed to be surrounded by excellent teachers every day.
What an amazing opportunity this TED talk will be. Not only will I be able to share the power and wisdom of horses with others, but through spending time with them, I’ll become a more effective and more present leader.
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And if you’d like to come to the TEDx UTA event, mark your calendars for April 22. More info can be found here.